Love beyond words, and that means to love in your actions. I want to give my love through writing, hugging someone I care about, kind words and gentle talk, but I know I still cannot do it consistently enough. My aim is to have a Christlike heart with the love of God, or Agape love. I sometimes see more love in people experiencing homelessness than I do in Church.
We learn to love God, but I feel giving another human or animal love and compassion is the better way of loving God, and if we understand who God is, we can better learn to love beyond words. Life is not about worshipping deity but about serving one another. It is about sharing our gifts, not money, but gifts that may help someone else without even thinking about getting compensated. Volunteerism has often made me feel good. Now, I am okay with struggling a little bit to make ends meet. I am okay not having to buy things I want. I have learned to budget my little income without writing it out or typing it in a spreadsheet.
When You Love Beyond Words, Words Lose Meaning
When I cook, clean, and interact with anyone I put love into it, and I put love and prayer into little tasks I do daily, so I care quietly. Even the details, I understand why I need them instead of generalizing all the time. I do not enjoy rushing things, like I did with so many important decisions in the past. There was love beyond words, or so I thought with a person once. I found out it was not true. Words were masking my true feelings.
Lessons learned and will not repeat if possible. Making the same mistake twice was a decision I made. I think for everyone, that cycle of most of repeated mistakes gets broken. Though, I still know people who are set in their ways and will not learn the patterns. Some of these patterns are ancestral, as well as the conditioned thoughts that come into our minds. Here is another post of mine at https://paulwylie.net/relationship-readiness-starts-with-me/.
Learn to See the Patterns God Put Before You
Lately, I have backed off from overly giving. I am starting to treat myself much better than anyone else, but not in a self-centered way. I now love myself for who I am beyond words, andI remain open-minded about everything. Hence, I am okay with family or friends that have not been around me lately, judging me and still thinking I am the same man I was when they last saw me. I will conform to those I love to keep the peace with them because I care quietly.
There is no reason I should fight or argue with anyone I love using words, especially the small stuff. I have already learned not to sweat the small stuff, and honestly everything is small. Most of us tend to make mountains out of molehills or make a problem worse than it already is. You can either have a little faith or be skeptical and stubborn with only evidence. That is the view of most realists. If they have not experienced or ever learned it, it is not real to them. That is just one reason ignorance is bliss, and intelligence is misery.
Teach Your Children to Be Kind by Action and Example
Let your babies cry for goodness’ sake. When they learn they do not get their way, often and everything they want in life, it makes them better adults. Do not give mobile phones to young children just to keep them occupied or from bothering you. Make action plans, give them chores to do. Take them on learning adventures. Help them to build skills that you can teach them when they get older. Play spelling games like ‘Scrabble,’ and limit video games that teach especially young boys, who are learning hand-eye coordination.
Take them out in nature is a way to love them beyond words like camping, fishing, and hunting, but in a safe way. Do not take your daughter or son with you when your friends and you will be drinking all night long at hunting camp. Keep them with very responsible people, and not your closest friends you drink and smoke with. That is irresponsible. I have a friend about my age, who is grandfather, but he smokes marijuana with his grandchildren. To me, that is just stupidly not a clever way of leading by example. He buys good stuff and smokes or gives it to them. I know it is legal now, but my Lord, doing that with teenagers is awful, I believe. Anyway, I have no right to judge anyone. We are still friends.
Do Good Things With Passion
As I move on in life, I must keep all of this to myself more. I may write it here or share it on my blog, but no one knows who I may be talking about, and if they do, they do not need to start rumors or make judgments either. Here is an article about how to get love less wrong.
The quieter I become, the better life is for me. I do miss talking with someone, but I am learning to love beyond words, even what I write.