by Paul | May 31, 2025
A dream was born from above,
Cloud sheds tears with a spark.
I lie wondering is this real love,
Lightning flashing in the dark.
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I look in her smiling meek eyes,
Her soul wanted me at home.
A whisper from a spirit so wise,
Said it is written in God’s tome.
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I could not refuse the Almighty,
Even though feeling not ready.
This time I could not be flighty,
Navigating the storm so steady.
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I pressed against her lips kissing,
Feel the passion dwelling inside.
Several days later, I was missing,
God took me with him to reside.
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He lectured me about my wrong,
My wings were not ready for me.
Heartbroken she is to be lifelong,
As a human I can no longer be.
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Paying a price before taking, flight!
by Paul | May 31, 2025
No matter how hard you try, you cannot be good to everyone that comes into your life. Previously, I thought I had to be everyone’s friend, but that does not work. I have learned that we must set boundaries for ourselves but be truthful as to why we set those boundaries. I oversee my life and only allow certain people to come close to me, on my terms and not by how they feel.
I instinctively know limits of myself and others, depending on who they are and what reason we are interacting with each other. I could not do this before because my mind was in a constant quandary and chaotic state of mind. It took discipline and time, especially after my one and only marriage to develop this in myself. I have much more self-control than I ever did before, and it is only getting stronger and better.
I do sometimes try to push my mind and my body past comfort to grow and build better character. I have turned friends into enemies but not intentionally. It is because they did not like the way I changed from who I was to who I am. Therefore, it became their problem, which they were projecting onto me as my problem. That does not cut if for me. People are so sure of themselves and feel they know what you need to do, but they really do not.
I have had so many control freaks and narcissists in my life, that I try my best to not be around them unless I absolutely must. This has lessened as I have gotten older, and I have transparency of everyone now. I understand the manipulation of salespeople and the way marketers try to get you to buy a product. The smooth-talking people who know how to talk to anyone, which I have recently learned to do but by my rules. We often get into conditions of love and life, which I will not be part of knowing it will be a disaster if it continues. In other words, I see the results of the storm before it happens.
What I just wrote may only be relevant to me, but I am sure many of you have been through similar circumstances. If so, we must help each other out in some way depending on what we are going through and if I have experienced something closely similar. Though, all I can do is give a little advice and not overthink it.
When we have learned the lesson, we must move on to the next one. Life is wonderful that way. This is a huge classroom, and we are all working our way through and to the top, only meant for us, individually.
by Paul | May 31, 2025
I awakened excitedly for what could be but knowing it was up to me. How do I approach her without my controlling emotions? The laughter and crying almost happened simultaneously. The weirdness of how it could end so quickly by one foolish action and even something not said. The timing will not often be perfect and learning to compromise is most important. There will be a time for complete transparency of each other’s humanity.
Our lives must intentionally govern by goodness and coordinated with the universe or in what many people claim to be in God’s time. As a scientist, I have learned to be skeptical of everyone including myself and question my own thoughts and actions, accordingly. We pretend we know what we are doing socially, but that trend is more for a woman than a man. The women folk remain grounded and earthy while men are flighty and fickle creatures. We men want to dominate, and it can be overly so if we let it.
Finding the balance with someone is difficult and we get into serious relationships for the wrong reasons like getting something personal settled. It could be the result of some childhood trauma response. Therefore, as a man be mysterious instead of too much of good guy. Show with quiet objective that you can have a little bit of badness in you. Subtly do not let your guard down too much early on. Speak your truth honestly knowing it may hurt. Get past often being right all the time or consider the option making peace if possible. Learn from mistakes and interact with knowledge or at least admit when you cannot do something most men know how to do. Do not be the superhero and do not be the villain of any close relationship. Every group needs a devil’s advocate, but the devil and Jesus are both within. Keep it true and real, for only sometimes it works to fake it until you make it.
Honesty is the best policy and do the right thing, all the time, more so to their advantage than yours but only if necessary. These words may not make sense or make you feel empty without any substance. It is okay to feel nothing sometimes and accept it. The glass does not often have to be half full or half empty. It can just be a glass of water no matter what the quantity is.
I leave you with this thought, and that it is to know me well is to spend as much time with me as possible even to help me fight through my darkest and live through my brightest moments, for each moment will come and go quickly.
by Paul | Mar 5, 2025
4 Things You Did Not Know About Phantom Physics
Unveiling the Mysteries of Phantom Physics
Phantom Physics is a fascinating and unclear branch of theoretical physics that explores into the unexplained and often mysterious aspects of our universe. While much of it remains uncertain, it is an area rich with potential and interest. Here are four things you might not have known about this fascinating field.
1. The Concept of Phantom Energy
Phantom energy is a hypothetical form of dark energy that proposes to have an equation of state with a parameter less than -1. This means that, unlike ordinary matter and energy, phantom energy would cause the expansion of the universe to accelerate at an ever-increasing rate. If phantom energy exists, it could lead to a future scenario known as the “Big Rip,” where the expansion of the universe eventually becomes so rapid that it tears apart galaxies, stars, planets, and even atomic particles. The concept challenges our understanding of the cosmos and poses intriguing questions about the fate of the universe. If the Universe becomes dominated by phantom dark energy, it undergoes super-accelerated expansion, resulting in all distances (down to atoms) becoming infinite at finite time.[1]
Theoretical Foundations
Phantom energy stems from variations to the standard model of cosmology. When the idea and more scientific evidence came to explain observations that suggest the universe’s expansion is accelerating at a rate faster than can account for by dark energy alone. Researchers have suggested that phantom energy could be a form of scalar field with negative kinetic energy, leading to its unusual properties.
Potential Implications
If phantom energy is indeed a reality, it would have reflective implications for the future of the universe. The Big Rip scenario is one of many potential outcomes, with timelines ranging from tens of billions to hundreds of billions of years. Understanding phantom energy could also provide insights into the nature of dark energy and the fundamental forces ruling the cosmos.
2. The Possibility of Phantom Matter
Phantom matter is another hypothetical concept within Phantom physics. It is a type of matter that interacts with phantom energy in ways we do not understand yet. Unlike ordinary matter, phantom matter could exhibit properties that allow it to exist in states that defy conventional physics.
Properties and Behavior
Phantom matter theorizes as having properties that could make it invisible or invisible to traditional detection methods. It might interact with phantom energy in a manner that could influence the structure and behavior of the universe on both macroscopic and microscopic scales. Cosmological history and evolution examine evidence for gravitational models with interaction in the dark sector of the universe. We consider dark energy to be described by a phantom scalar field and dark matter as a pressure-less ideal gas.[2] The existence of phantom matter could help explain some of the anomalies observed in astrophysical data.
Research and Exploration
While the concept of phantom matter is still in its infancy, researchers are exploring various models and theories to understand its potential characteristics. Advanced simulations and observational data from innovative telescopes and detectors are crucial in this quest. The discovery of phantom matter would revolutionize our understanding of the universe and open new avenues for research in both theoretical and experimental physics.
3. The Influence on Quantum Mechanics
Phantom physics also intersects with the realm of quantum mechanics, offering potential explanations for some of the puzzling phenomena observed at subatomic levels. A phantom is a virtual body of matter having its mass distribution equivalent to the energy distribution in the carrier. Using an inhomogeneous chain of particles as a sample system, we show that phantom motion satisfies Newton is second law of dynamics.[3] The integration of phantom energy and matter into quantum theories could lead to a more thorough understanding of the fundamental nature of reality.
Quantum Fields and Phantom Energy
Merging phantom energy into quantum field theory presents unique challenges and opportunities. Researchers are investigating how Phantom Energy could influence quantum fields and particles, potentially leading to new predictions and discoveries. The interaction between phantom energy and quantum fields might shed light on the behavior of particles in extreme conditions, such as those near black holes or during the early moments of the universe’s formation.
Implications for Quantum Entanglement
Quantum entanglement, one of the most mysterious aspects of quantum mechanics, corelates to phantom physics. If phantom energy can influence entangled particles, it might provide new insights into the nature of this phenomenon and its potential applications in quantum computing and communication. Understanding these interactions could pave the way for advancements in technology and our grasp of the quantum world. It was Albert Einstein, who quoted this referring to his idea of quantum entanglement, “spooky action at a distance.”
4. The Role in Theoretical Cosmology
Phantom physics plays a significant role in theoretical cosmology, offering new perspectives on the origins, evolution, and fate of the universe. By adding concepts from phantom physics, cosmologists can develop more comprehensive models that account for the observed acceleration of the universe’s expansion and other cosmological phenomena. A crucial aspect of wormhole (WH) physics is the inclusion of exotic matter, which requires violating the null energy condition. Here, we explore the potential for WHs to be sustained by quark matter under conditions of extreme density along with the phantom-like generalized cosmic Chaplygin gas (GCCG) in symmetric teleparallel gravity.[4]
Alternative Cosmological Models
Phantom physics has led to the development of unconventional cosmological models that challenge traditional views. These models explore scenarios where phantom energy and matter play crucial roles in shaping the universe’s large-scale structure and dynamics. By considering these alternatives, researchers can test the limits of current theories and potentially uncover new aspects of the cosmos.
Impact on Multiverse Theories
The implications of phantom physics extend beyond our universe, potentially impacting multiverse theories. If phantom energy and matter exist, they could influence the behavior and properties of other universes within a multiverse framework. This could lead to a deeper understanding of the connections between different universes and the fundamental principles governing them.
Future Directions
As our understanding of phantom physics evolves, it will undoubtedly continue to influence theoretical cosmology. Researchers are constantly refining models and seeking new data to test their predictions. The quest to understand Phantom Physics is a testament to the ever-evolving nature of scientific inquiry and our desire to unravel the mysteries of the universe. For there exists no science of the unconscious, or subconscious, mind. It would be a contradiction in terms, a self-contradiction. One does not know which is subconscious. Therefore, all problems concerning the subconscious are phantom problems.[5]
In conclusion, Phantom physics is a captivating and mysterious field that challenges our understanding of the universe. From the potential existence of phantom energy and matter to its influence on quantum mechanics and cosmology, this area of study offers a wealth of possibilities for future research and discovery. As scientists continue to explore these concepts, we may one day uncover the true nature of Phantom physics and its role in the broader tapestry of the cosmos.
[1] Dimopoulos, Konstantinos. Introduction to Cosmic Inflation and Dark Energy, Taylor & Francis Group, 2020. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=6389634
[2] Paliathanasis, Andronikos, Amlan Halder, and Genly Leon. Revise the Dark Matter-Phantom Scalar Field Interaction. , Ithaca, 2024. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/working-papers/revise-dark-matter-phantom-scalar-field/docview/3143052576/se-2.
[3] Krivtsov, Anton M. “Dynamics of Matter and Energy.” Zeitschrift Für Angewandte Mathematik Und Mechanik, vol. 103, no. 4, 2023. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/scholarly-journals/dynamics-matter-energy/docview/2798798140/se-2, doi:https://doi.org/10.1002/zamm.202100496
[4] Pradhan, Sneha, Zinnat Hassan, and P. K. Sahoo. Wormhole Geometries Supported by Strange Quark Matter and Phantom-Like Generalized Chaplygin Gas within \(f(Q)\) Gravity. , Ithaca, 2024. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/working-papers/wormhole-geometries-supported-strange-quark/docview/3093280580/se-2, doi:https://doi.org/10.1016/j.dark.2024.101620.
[5] Planck, Max. Scientific Autobiography : And Other Papers, Open Road Integrated Media, Inc., 2014. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=1790404.
by Paul | Feb 20, 2025
Soulmates is a topic of interest in today’s world. They are men, women, and children but with connection in a kind and gentle way. They are people with such deep love for you that anyone outside those relationships does not understand. I have many soulmates that come and go, but I have not found my permanent one woman, soulmate. For some this is a misconstrued idea.
Most men would not believe and accept that their soulmate is a man, but it could be your best friend, who is a man. He may be someone you often spend time with and has similar interests. Your soulmate is not your antagonist. Even if a couple of adults, at first may have several arguments but easily resolved. Too, soulmates are, sometimes depicted as works from God, who are here to give and teach each other something. My soulmate is a perfect idea in Divine Mind and therefore is always in the right place at the right time and divinely protected by God.[1] Having God entirely in the relationship may be important too, which makes having a soulmate less as a misconstrued idea.
A Pact Before This Reality
Men usually do not think of relationships as soulmates, but women, who more commonly read romance novels do fall more into believing they have a soulmate, as if in some idyllic dream of theirs. In the journal of Humanities & Social Sciences Communications, Karin Steen and other authors referenced a soulmate in the following way. Accordingly, de Beauvoir portrays men as remaining ‘sovereign subjects’ within love relationships and are less likely to place their love affairs in the context of long-term visions of perfect harmony (ibid.). Contrastingly, women are represented to be consumed by love and the idea of finding their significant other or soulmate.[2] Wome are more social and readers of romance novels, so that may explain. The term kindred spirit, often considered a confused thought has been around longer than the word soulmate.
Sometimes, women accept that they could go through several or many bad states or relationships before finding their soulmate. It could be that God or by luck, a particular man came into their life at the right time. I had 30 jobs, got fired from some, moved on to others, made money, lost more, met the wrong man, had a beautiful baby and met my soulmate.[3] They may have children with other men before finding that harmonious soulmate relationship, even possibly if they cannot have children anymore.
A Kindred Spirit Can Be a Confused Thought.
The idea of going through many bad relationships before finding the right man is not even in the mind of some women. It is misconstued. Hence, It could be that thought of some having to go through bad karma, from some dreadful things, mostly women, did in their youth. It often, more so than not involves as coming from the Divine, depending on their belief. Many people lose faith when repeatedly faced with the wrong people. They become overwhelmed with worry or panic, unable to decide what to do with their lives. Some people settle for the life they have, adding a pet to get the unconditional love that they want. Other people never give up hope, believing their soulmate is out there.[4] Soulmate is an idea entirely misconstrued.
The most recent new-age spiritualism of law-of-attraction thus formed in the early twentieth century has contributed this thought of having a soulmate. That idea paints a dreamscape of a perfect partner, or even as picture or described by a psychic they visited, previously. My soulmate is in the world and is being drawn to me.[5] There are professionals who believe in soulmates like Dr. Laura Berman at https://drlauraberman.com/here-is-the-true-meaning-of-soulmates-hint-its-not-what-you-think/. For most people, a soulmate or kindred spirit is a confused thought or misconstrued idea.
Two Bodies in One Soul
We all get into fantasies or stories of legends, as if by magic, the right person comes into our lives. As in my marriage, from my former wife’s perspective we were together for about two years, called the “honeymoon” phase and more truths about us showed their ugly head. Even after many years of marriage, some couples ditch the soulmate concept for something more realistic. It is easy a soulmate as a confused thought of idealists or a misconstrued idea.
But the most common myth about marriage is the one revealed by my retreat leader’s friends, the ones who believed that her life must be a tub of butter now that she was married. Wilcox calls this the “soulmate myth.” According to Wilcox, the problem with basing marriage on the idea of finding a “soulmate,” or “a person who gives you an intense emotional and erotic connection, who makes you feel happy and fulfilled,” is its individualism. “As an ideal,” Wilcox argues, the notion of soulmate marriage “can make it more difficult for husbands and wives to embrace a richer, more stable and ultimately more satisfying idea of marriage, beyond the me-first spirit of soulmate love.[6] This notion is usually non-lasting. It falsifies the relationship, but still sometimes couples can work through it. A kindred spirit, even though a confused thought
There Are Various Kinships of Relatives and Non-Relatives
It is even more difficult for a partner whose soulmate commits suicide. That is usually when the thought of having a soulmate ends for them. It is half the story of what happened in ‘Romeo and Juliet.’ The rest of that surviving partner’s life may go into a deep dark depression that they cannot get out of, at times, even after getting professional help. If your soulmate has died by suicide, your grief journey is likely to be especially painful and difficult— more challenging than any other grief you’ve experienced in your life.[7] Yes, we forget that dreams shatter and real things can happen in life, as a wake-up call for the survivor. Of course, the challenge could be from other events or circumstances. Whether you consider a sould and kindred spirit as the same, their meanings are slightly different.
In conclusion, I do not buy into the ‘soulmate’ theory, now. It may have at one or several points crossed my mind. I realistically know that conflict will occur between people in a relationship, the longer it lasts. It may be fear of commitment to avoid a soulmate. With me as an older man, it will take a long friendship before about committing to a personal relationship. Find a soulmate once your feel you do not have to walk your own path alone. As we know, a soulmate is a misconstrued idea in most people’s minds.
[1] Stevens, Samantha. Creating Love : A Guide to Finding and Attracting Love, Insomniac Press, 2004. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=299593
[2] Steen, Karin, et al. “Meanings and Implications of Love: Review of the Scholarship of Love with a Sub-Saharan Focus.” Humanities & Social Sciences Communications, vol. 11, no. 1, 2024, pp. 129. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/scholarly-journals/meanings-implications-love-review-scholarship/docview/2916279902/se-2, doi:https://doi.org/10.1057/s41599-023-02504-1
[3] Allis, Janine. The Accidental Entrepreneur : The Juicy Bits, John Wiley & Sons, Incorporated, 2016. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=4451894
[4] I Tried Soulmate Voice to Hear what My Soulmate Sounds Like. Black Press Group Ltd, Poulsbo, 2024. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/blogs-podcasts-websites/i-tried-soulmate-voice-hear-what-my-sounds-like/docview/3064952257/se-2
[5] Murphy, Dr. Joseph. Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life : Success for Young Adults Through the Power of the Subconscious Mind, G&D Media, 2023. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=6846212
[6] Matthew, Elizabeth G. “Review: Debunking Marriage Myths.” America, vol. 231, no. 3, 10, 2024, pp. 1-5. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/magazines/review-debunking-marriage-myths/docview/3116729027/se-2
[7] Wolfelt, Alan D. Understanding Your Suicide Grief : Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart, Companion Press, 2024. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=516935
by Paul | Feb 18, 2025
Claiming to be old school is okay, to a point, but we should learn how to adapt to yhe latest technology. Even if we are in our golden years, it is best to learn to adapt. In my art and writing, I enjoy being original, but I have accepted that artificial intelligence is the way of the future. If we do not give in to how the world is now and remain complacent in our ways, we cannot make progress. Thus, everyone should learn to adapt to technology.
Learning organizations are vastly different. People are constantly talking to one another, sharing information and knowledge, and debating ideas.[1] Therefore, in locations of learning, interacting with people helps us better adapt to change. At schools and universities, it is a group that is learning to adapt together instead of individually. It also brings a sense of teamwork into any project.
In application to modern technology, younger students are more flexible because of their introduction to technology at a younger age, but learning technical skills today is much easier. I, on the other hand, started learning technology midlife, and it was more difficult for me to adapt. Students apply their knowledge of postural and positional parameters (performance logic) to nonideal operational settings so they can learn to adapt equipment to their needs as human operators.[2] This is from a performance simulation, whereby teachers instruct students hands-on with better ways of instruction than earlier methods.
When We Learn to Adapt to New Technology, We Win
When I learn to adapt to technology, as an older man, it is not only for educational purposes. It is also for social interactions and relationships. Parents must learn new ways of learning from their children. They must accept that they are learning differently from when they attended school. It is not necessarily the smartest person that wins at life, or anything for that matter, but the person that is best at adapting to change. Whether it’s at work or in your personal life, being versatile allows you to build relationships with a variety of people because of your ability to adapt to any situation.[3]
I know there are many times I felt stuck because there was not any change occurring, or it was from the same repetitious ways of previous years. I knew what to expect with hardly any incident of learning, except memorizing. When technology came out later, it made learning exciting for me. Everything is firsthand or visual, which I enjoy. I understand why older people do not want to learn to adapt to new technology.
Back in the early 1990s and before, I was not interested in learning anything. Computers put a spark on me, and when I took a personal computer repair correspondence course in 2003, I was excited and thrilled about learning technical skills. I started junior college in 2006, and even English composition authoring essays was enjoyable, but educational technology was amazing to me, so I adapted well. Today, I am a writer and researcher but limited for medical reasons. I have worked in the technology field for about twenty years. Students can benefit from educational technology because it can personalize instruction and adapt to their strengths and weaknesses.[4] The ever-changing use of technology in education is advancing tremendously.
Nowadays, Getting Knowledge Is Easy
Coming into an era of virtual classroom and interactive online labs made online learning simple, for me anyway. Education has entered an era that will challenge our ability to adapt and to interact with new technological and interactive media.[5] Artificial intelligence is now common in education, too. Electro-mechanical engineering is a field of study, especially in the form of robots and drones. Self-driving vehicles are here for land, water, and air. Here is a resource for learning. It is easy learning technical skills too.
Even robots are learning to adapt to human tasks and changing the work force. Car assembly lines are mostly robotic. Medical robots are doing surgeries and the field of medical technology and finding new ways for curing diseases is remarkable. We want a robot that does not just react to its environment as a reflex action but has goals and intent to learn and adapt to the environment.[6] The environment affects robots less than humans and better at performance overall on certain tasks, but learning technical skills is important.
I have adapted to our modern world more so than many of my high school classmates did with technology. I still enjoy art and music but now a variety of eclectic study is my preference. If we do learn to adapt to new technology, we will be left behind.
[1] Sarder, Russell. Building an Innovative Learning Organization : A Framework to Build a Smarter Workforce, Adapt to Change, and Drive Growth, John Wiley & Sons, Incorporated, 2016. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=4337387
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[2] Rucker, Lance M. Performance Simulation: The Method. , 1986. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/encyclopedias-reference-works/performance-simulation-method/docview/63236580/se-2.
[3] Levasseur, Derrick. The Undercover Edge : Find Your Hidden Strengths, Learn to Adapt, and Build the Confidence to Win Life’s Game, Sourcebooks, Incorporated, 2018. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=5115118
[4] Parent and Family Digital Learning Guide. Office of Educational Technology, US Department of Education, 2020. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/encyclopedias-reference-works/parent-family-digital-learning-guide/docview/2535186960/se-2.
[5] Van Horn-Christopher, Doris A. “Technology and the Future of Education.” ERIC, Resources in Education (RIE), 1993, pp. 1-20. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/scholarly-journals/technology-future-education/docview/62692439/se-2
[6] Govers, Francis X.. Artificial Intelligence for Robotics : Build Intelligent Robots That Perform Human Tasks Using AI Techniques, Packt Publishing, Limited, 2018. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=5504932
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by Paul | Feb 16, 2025
Navigating relationships is a learning process, and in this post, I will explore several kinds. I am not an authority on relationships, but I have learned through, mostly trial and error, the correct and incorrect way of developing relationships from the perspective of an older man, who currently is single. This research and writing may even help me in my relationships.
First, I will discuss adults forming a romantic relationship. Planned marriages started in childhood by parents, family, and cultural traditions usually do not work out. Even if the children are friends and they are old enough to date and marry, and planned beforehand, there is still that factor of choice and not going to college or getting a career first. This survey and report reference Southern Colleges and why it is more common to marry while attending college. Experiences of emotional closeness and intimacy made students perceive this to be the “right” person for them to marry.[1] Southern demography seems more marriage based. It reminds me of stories of short-gun weddings and whirlwind romances, which were more common in earlier days.
Lawfully, the age of consent is eighteen and there have been romances, like Romeo and Juliet, where teenagers ran off together but resulted in tragedy. Therefore, parental permissions are of less importance than parental blessings. If you rebelled against your parents, why would you ask for their blessings or must get married traditionally, in a church? Today it is legal for a child marriage, which activists describe as one or both parties entering a union while under age 18, remains legal in 37 US states.[2] This is something that has been common for a while.
Then there now is a disorder of attachment. Early attachment behavior and later romantic love share similarities. Differences exist between anxious/ambivalent lovers and secure lovers. Transient loneliness is a natural component of attachment-system activations.[3] The lonelier a person has been, the easier they attach to someone that wants to use them. It is a sad thing because of the loss obtained by the person attaching. It does not go well for the victim, and it gives them more of a victim mentality.
Why do some people take advantage of others? It is because they can, and they get the reward, sometimes financially, and have no remorse about it. Narcissists are good at this, and empathetic people learn hard lessons, several times like I did. There is also division between power and love, and that gives me thought of power couples, who give into much power over love. That does not work in any relationship. We fall when our power and our love become polarized: when our power is without love and our love is without power. We fall when, intentionally, or unintentionally, we make the elementary and common error of treating the relationship between power and love, which is a dilemma, as if it was a choice.[4] Thus, I believe it is better to be humble and love instead of powerful.
I heart so many stories that women want a bad boy and not the ever-so-common good guy. I now know, for me, it is not to rush things and get into that friend zone, as so many modern-day matchmakers tell you not to do. I would rather have a long friendship before getting romantic, and there were times when romance occurred too early for me and the romance went away for one of us or both, when not comfortable or ready.
I am not sure if I have fallen in love before, but I have known women whose pupils would dilate when I looked into her eyes, but I did not reciprocate that feeling. Today, sexual drive for me is not of lust but more of a gut feeling and like how I feel love. It is all internal, but it is not that I do not enjoy the external intimacy with a woman. As I have learned over time, God is within and love comes from within, which I hope is God. Currently, I am saving myself for one woman. Sex is a sacred act and both her and me must both communicate and be comfortable, and I am sure will take a long time. That is okay.
[1] Allison, Rachel. “”Why wait?”: Early marriage among Southern college students.” Journal of Marriage and Family, vol. 85, no. 4, 2023, pp. 923-940. ProQuest; eLibrary, https://explore.proquest.com/elibrary/document/3055980055?accountid=41449, doi:http://dx.doi.org/10.1111/jomf.12910.
[2] Demopoulos, Alaina. “‘I was handed to a complete stranger’: the survivors fighting to end child marriage in 37 US states — and the people who want to keep it legal.” The Guardian (Online), ProQuest; eLibrary, 09 July 2024, https://explore.proquest.com/elibrary/document/3077011375?accountid=41449.
[3] Shaver, Phillip. “Being Lonely, Falling in Love: Perspectives from Attachment Theory.” ERIC, Resources in Education (RIE), 1986, pp. 1-35. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/scholarly-journals/being-lonely-falling-love-perspectives-attachment/docview/63249639/se-2.
[4] Kahane, Adam. Power and Love : A Theory and Practice of Social Change, Berrett-Koehler Publishers, Incorporated, 2009. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=479225.
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by Paul | Feb 16, 2025
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Accepting the sexual orientation of other people often frowned upon by too many people of our male-dominated world. I practice being open to everyone and try to accept everyone for who they are. For me, too, I now try my best to build all my relationships from Christ-consciousness or being in a state of self-actualization. This may seem dangerous to specific groups of people but not to me.
The people easily influence us we are around most, but we also bring our past beliefs and teachings into the picture. We judge people by our limited knowledge, even if we are highly trained and educated in specific fields. Even lawyers and judges can find ancient laws, of corruption, which are valid today regarding sexual orientation. Yet even judges make judgements by beliefs or ancient homophobic laws that are still in place. Morality should not be a subject from only a religious attitude or teaching toward sexual orientation.
Within families, if parents with harsh, older school, religious values have children that are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender(LGBT), but one or both do not accept them, their home environment could become extremely hostile. Alienating your children is much worse, morally, than accepting them for who they are, no matter their beliefs or sexual orientation or other discriminatory labels society puts upon them. Healthwise, for the child, parent and sibling approval is necessary. Family acceptance of LGBT adolescents is associated with positive young adult mental and physical health. Interventions that promote parental and caregiver acceptance of LGBT adolescents are needed to reduce health disparities.[1] I cannot tell people enough to be loving in all ways, no matter their state in life. A family member, so full of hate toward the LBGT&Q(queer) person within a family, will not allow for any gatherings or reunions where all family attends. I understand this on a personal level, but I will not go into depth or have conversation on that.
Within schools and universities, too, student services staff, such as school nurses, social workers, and counselors, need to be aware to issues related to sexual orientation, and they need to work with individuals and groups to support all students.[2] Peers, even if long-time friends can become disparaging toward someone, that has literally come out of the closet about the sexual orientation. I admit growing up and throughout my life that I had both family and friends that had and still have discriminatory prejudice.
The teenage years are challenging times, and I was a geek and shy with girls but still had strong attraction toward them. As I reflect on that time, there was not even discussion or topic of sexual orientation. For me, my family, except some more distant relatives, and friends the acronym LGBT&Q and that community of people was nonexistent. During their adolescent years, youths with a homosexual orientation appear to face significantly different developmental challenges than those faced by heterosexual youths or individuals who recognize their homosexual orientation and come out later in life.[3] Locker room discussion was heterosexual in nature, and crude of course, back when I was a teenager. Most young men discussed their sexual exploits of a different sex.
Unfortunately, even in my youth, prejudicial crime was rampant yet over time has diminished, it still exists within our current civilization. A hate crime is generally defined as a crime which is motivated by the offender’s bias toward the victim’s race, color, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, gender, or disability.[4] We continue to live in a world of violence where people are trained to kill for their nation and sometimes come back to society psychologically damaged. It does not matter if you were in a war or not, that brainwashing can be detrimental for the rest of that person’s life, and it also depends on what happened while you were going through that experience. I know this first-hand, serving in the military.
It is also good to know that more people are changing their attitude for the better, especially in educational institutions. While more intense negative feelings across diverse situations were expressed by heterosexual male and female students toward gay males than toward lesbian and gay students might appreciate learning that most of their heterosexual peers expressed outrage at incidents of physical violence toward a gay male or lesbian student.[5] Yes, no matter your sexual orientation, we are supportive of each other in every way, now, much more than previously.
My journey is different on all levels and diversity is important in forming better ideas and solutions in our world. We are all family and head mostly for similar goals. I envision a world of peace, someday, but it will not be in my lifetime. Within every destruction comes forth a new creation.
[1] Ryan, Caitlin,PhD., A.C.S.W., et al. “Family Acceptance in Adolescence and the Health of LGBT Young Adults.” Journal of Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Nursing, vol. 23, no. 4, 2010, pp. 205-13. ProQuest; eLibrary, https://explore.proquest.com/elibrary/document/816337319?accountid=41449
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by Paul | Feb 14, 2025
The earth and extraterrestrial connection are what the majority do not understand. Humans are lonely because they lack meaningful relations on Earth, not space. Yet, if extraterrestrials exist and a successful first contact occurs, this may be an opportunity for building such a meaningful “cosmic relationship.” Until then, we are left alone with our questions.[1] We know that with such a vast universe, we cannot be the only ones here. We use mathematical formulas and modeling that there is other earth like planets, even possibly in our own milky way galaxy.
The artificial intelligence anomaly engine assumes only that the activities of an alien civilization might have some detectable effect on our observable universe.[2] With AI, there are ways of solving problems better than on the human level of intelligence. Previously, two fundamental problems for extraterrestrial intelligences (ETIs) attempting to establish interstellar communication are timing and energy consumption.[3] The timing and energy consumption, resolved with AI in providing how to use less of that ingesting of resources through continual advancements in technology and quantum computing. The scientific evidence is based on more research and experimentation from highly trained scientists, engineers, and mathematicians as well as other technicians and businesses, governmental agencies, and corporations created to work on such things.
In ‘The Copernican Principle, Intelligent Extraterrestrials, and Arguments from Evil’ (Religious Studies), I contend that evidence for extraterrestrial life is evidence against the existence of God according to prominent forms of the problem of evil. If this is correct, the next-generation telescopes may have important implications for traditional monotheism. Even science may be on the verge of providing the truth about God instead of the commonly held and long belief of God as a father-figure, on this male-dominated earth. This leaves out any possibility of higher intelligent beings as matriarchal in nature.
A major step in discovering potential extraterrestrial life will be the launch of the Transiting Exoplanet Surveying Satellite in 2017, James Webb Space Telescope in 2018 and the Wide Field Infrared Survey Telescope – Astrophysics Focused Telescope Assets early in the next decade.[4] The James Webb telescope surpasses the Hubbel space telescope in finding a clearer imagery of our distant universe. This clarity is better evidence of better ways of understanding and gaining knowledge on the structure of our universe and the greater possibility of extraterrestrial life.
The so-called Fermi paradox claims that if technological life existed anywhere else, we would see evidence of its visits to Earth-and since we do not, such life does not exist, or some special explanation is needed.[5] This paradox, too, may be nothing more than conjecture, but maybe we have already had visits from extraterrestrials as is now being discovered in Egyptian and Earlier Sumerian archeology.
SETI or Search for Extraterrestrial Intelligence radioscopes can only produce waveforms that are accessible by only one or two ETCs or Extraterrestrial Civilizations. Even if we have contacted them already, they may not be interested.[6] I believe ETs have been here possibly thousands of years or more, already. There are secret governmental programs, for which we are unaware, that are in contact with ETs already. Society including the American Public are naïve about such things.
Since our technology is advancing at such a rapid pace, more disclosures are coming into light to the public from new, once hidden reports and research on extraterrestrials and Aerial Phenomena Investigations, or APIs.
We are not alone.
[1] Döbler, Niklas A., Yassin El Amri, and Claus-Christian Carbon. “Is there Anybody Out there? can Individual Loneliness, Need for Closure, and Religiosity Predict the Belief in Extraterrestrial Life and Intelligence?” Discover Psychology, vol. 3, no. 1, 2023, pp. 21. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/scholarly-journals/is-there-anybody-out-can-individual-loneliness/docview/2841215148/se-2, doi:https://doi.org/10.1007/s44202-023-00076-4
[2] Mackintosh, Graham. “AI and the Detection of Extraterrestrial Life.” American Scientist, vol. 106, no. 5, 2018, pp. 311. ProQuest; eLibrary, https://explore.proquest.com/elibrary/document/2092473926?accountid=41449.
[3] Forgan, Duncan H. “Exoplanet Transits as the Foundation of an Interstellar Communications Network.” International Journal of Astrobiology, vol. 18, no. 3, 2019, pp. 189-198. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/scholarly-journals/exoplanet-transits-as-foundation-interstellar/docview/2307375225/se-2, doi:https://doi.org/10.1017/S1473550417000283.
[4] News, VOA. “Discovery of Extraterrestrial Life ‘Within Reach’ Says NASA.” Voice of America News / FINDFederal Information & News Dispatch, LLC 2014. ProQuest; eLibrary, https://explore.proquest.com/elibrary/document/1545304677?accountid=41449
[5] Gray, Robert H. The Fermi Paradox is neither Fermis nor a Paradox. , Ithaca, 2016. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/working-papers/fermi-paradox-is-neither-fermis-nor/docview/2079362196/se-2, doi:https://doi.org/10.1089/ast.2014.1247
[6] Wilson, T. L. “The search for extraterrestrial intelligence.” Nature, vol. 409, no. 6823, 2001, pp. 1110-4. ProQuest; eLibrary, https://explore.proquest.com/elibrary/document/204495901?accountid=41449, doi:http://dx.doi.org/10.1038/35059235
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by Paul | Feb 14, 2025
To become a chosen person is not everyone’s cup of tea. In Catholicism, it is a calling to Sainthood but mostly people of vowed celibacy as nuns or priests. This leaves the secular world, for both practicing and nonpracticing Catholics without ever a chance of achieving that status after death. Therefore, I use the term “chosen ones,” which is usually only acceptable in Judeo-Christian religions. For everyone else, it is the aim to become the hero or heroine, who are protagonists that must experience severe antagonists and antagonisms during life. Yes, each one of us has a story that is unique.
From a biblical perspective, we learned that the Israelites are the chosen people. Even today, if leadership from a different nation, other than the state of Israel, will receive rewards if continually aiding them in some way. These ten words, ten statements, ten commandments allowed the Israelites to see the world from the Creator’s perspective. These commandments provided Israel with a foundation to build upon as God’s chosen people.[1] Those most in congruent with Judeo-Christian religious practices know and understand this, while those that have distanced themselves from those belief and practice secular humanism or certain non-deist or deist-based faiths will deny and argue with it often. It promotes schism between church and state.
With the rise of intellectualism, biblical and religious scripts become falsehood, thus categorized as works of fiction, which is not based on scientific evidence. The emergence and development of secularism occurred because it was intellectually superior to Christianity and so convinced more people of its truth.[2] The chosen ones currently are gurus or scientists with more of metaphysical derived often from ancient archeology. New age saviors are the thing now written in an abstract about the super gurus for celebrities and the wealthy, which makes one think there is greed involved.[3] It is the “golden calf” of today and seems interesting. Psychics and astrology are pseudoscience, which means their beliefs are not real by scientific evidence.
Everyone on earth now can be the chosen ones, but of course within the context of modern knowledge and discoveries. Those who have been hailed and worshiped as the saviors of mankind are manifestations of the Great impersonal Law, and being such, were free from passion and prejudice, and having no opinions, and no special letter of doctrine to preach and defend, they never sought to convert and to proselytize.[4] There are now, more than before, ways to eternal salvation depending on your beliefs or the life your living. I believe if people, even though they may not practice a religious belief, who often live and practice by “the golden rule” have way to heaven, whatever that mean to them. They are quiet ones with good hearts, who only love.
Thus, placing too much emphasis on the freeness of salvation or rejecting the necessity of human responsibility as a proper expression of genuine faith is to do violence to the picture of salvation as presented in Revelation.[5] Buddhist monks are the quietest order in reaching salvation, but they do not believe in deity but by attaining a state of bliss or enlightenment. It takes practice to be humble, who along with the weak will inherit the earth as written in the bible.
Therefore, do we call the bible a work of fiction or nonfiction? It depends on who you are, and fiction novels as interpreted in diverse ways. But good nonfiction explains more of the truth depending on the research and connections to educated people within the story. The pen is mightier than the sword, which today would be the keyboard is mightier than the sword. Those with the most prominent voices and great orators are not necessarily the most correct.
I know in my continuing research of assorted topics, that truth reveals itself increasingly for me each time I write with knowledge than with my emotions.
[1] Scott, Ryan. Sinai Experiment : Ten Words for God’s Chosen People, The Foundry Publishing, 2010. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=3379450
[2] Smith, Graeme. A Short History of Secularism, I. B. Tauris & Company, Limited, 2007. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=677067
[3] Wilson, Sophie. “THE SUPER GURUS TO THE STARS: YOU’RE A CELEBRITY IN NEED OF A LIFE OVERHAUL — WHO DO YOU TURN TO? ONE OF LONDON’S TOP GURUS, THAT’S WHO. FROM LIZ HURLEY’S HEALER TO KATE MOSS’S YOGI, SOPHIE WILSON MEETS THE NEW AGE SAVIOURS SOME OF OUR BEST-KNOWN VIPS HAVE ON SPEED DIAL.” Belfast Telegraph, Oct 08, 2016, pp. 20. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/newspapers/super-gurus-stars/docview/1831967499/se-2.
[4] Allen, James. The Way of Peace, Floating Press, The, 2005. ProQuest Ebook Central, http://ebookcentral.proquest.com/lib/atpa-ebooks/detail.action?docID=390894
[5] Kim, Sung J. Salvation as Victory: A Study on Divine Grace and Human Responsibility in Salvation in the Book of Revelation through the Lens of the Conquering Motif, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, United States — Kentucky, 2023. ProQuest, https://www.proquest.com/dissertations-theses/salvation-as-victory-study-on-divine-grace-human/docview/2903798879/se-2
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