No matter how hard you try, you cannot be good to everyone that comes into your life. Previously, I thought I had to be everyone’s friend, but that does not work. I have learned that we must set boundaries for ourselves but be truthful as to why we set those boundaries. I oversee my life and only allow certain people to come close to me, on my terms and not by how they feel.

I instinctively know limits of myself and others, depending on who they are and what reason we are interacting with each other. I could not do this before because my mind was in a constant quandary and chaotic state of mind. It took discipline and time, especially after my one and only marriage to develop this in myself. I have much more self-control than I ever did before, and it is only getting stronger and better.

I do sometimes try to push my mind and my body past comfort to grow and build better character. I have turned friends into enemies but not intentionally. It is because they did not like the way I changed from who I was to who I am. Therefore, it became their problem, which they were projecting onto me as my problem. That does not cut if for me. People are so sure of themselves and feel they know what you need to do, but they really do not.

I have had so many control freaks and narcissists in my life, that I try my best to not be around them unless I absolutely must. This has lessened as I have gotten older, and I have transparency of everyone now. I understand the manipulation of salespeople and the way marketers try to get you to buy a product. The smooth-talking people who know how to talk to anyone, which I have recently learned to do but by my rules. We often get into conditions of love and life, which I will not be part of knowing it will be a disaster if it continues. In other words, I see the results of the storm before it happens.

What I just wrote may only be relevant to me, but I am sure many of you have been through similar circumstances. If so, we must help each other out in some way depending on what we are going through and if I have experienced something closely similar. Though, all I can do is  give a little advice and not overthink it.

When we have learned the lesson, we must move on to the next one. Life is wonderful that way. This is a huge classroom, and we are all working our way through and to the top, only meant for us, individually.